Motivation

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February 4, 2019by adomedia0

My work means I meet people constantly. While they all come with different needs and nutritional concerns; from performance outcomes to food anxiety, fundamentally they are all looking for that golden nugget, that something that is going to make them feel “complete”.

Indeed, none of us are immune, talking to my close friends, it does feel like so many of us are just trying to “make sense” of what life is and should be. However, in the case of many that I work with, this pursuit for “constant happiness/success/completeness” often results in extreme behaviours, which can result in short and long term health problems.

 

Its important to remember that the mind and body are not separate entities; making a change at one level can have severe implications and consequences at another point within the body.

Let’s take the example of restrictive eating. It usually starts with the individual believing that changing their nutritional intake; going gluten free will improve their overall health and energy levels. This in turn will make them happier and more accepted. However, when this change doesn’t provide the response they were hoping for, they may remove a further food group. Over time their diet and energy intake becomes so restrictive, it leads to biochemical and hormonal irregularities, resulting in depression, anxiety and bone health problems. Similarly, many of us turn to exercise to help with stress and improve general health parameters; while we know exercise is good for us, there is a dose related response. So if we take it to an extreme, it can become obsessional, leaving the individual feeling more anxious when life or circumstances means they are unable to train.

 

Where does this all come from? Why the constant need and search for “perfect”? It does feel that we are a society that defines individuals by external validation. We are only deemed successful if we have “achieved”. The constant pressure to live by ideals, from what we look like, to what we eat, even to what the interior of our home looks like. It feels like we live in a constant state of judgment. For those of us who are vulnerable, who struggle with our sense of self, this creates more anxiety; we crack the whip harder but no matter what we do, we are never good enough. While love and happiness are positive emotions to experience, many of us run a mile (quite literally) when it comes to experiencing these difficult emotions such as loss, uncertainty, pain and trauma. Its fairly understandable –any of us who suffer with anxiety know that it can be debilitating; the severe physical feelings, that you can sense deep within you and make you want to just unzip and escape from your body. However, the problem is that no matter what “coping mechanisms” you put in place to “control, contain and numb” these difficult emotions, such as restrictive eating, over exercising, alcohol, sex or drugs, they are always temporary. Those difficult emotions always come back –eventually you have to choose to accept them, work your way through them in order to finally come out the other side and get on with your life. This obviously feels terrifying but working with a qualified psychological practitioner is critical. In order to change a behavior, we have to challenge it which means stepping out of your comfort zone and accepting discomfort, understanding that while it may cause you unease, nothing awful actually happens.

 

You will never find your answer in food or exercise. These are important components to a healthy life but as we have seen, they can fast become the crux too. Emotional problems need to be dealt with – you lack of self worth and ability to believe you are good enough will have developed through a number of different means –your experiences, your interpretations of situations. In order to be able to navigate through life, you have to learn self acceptance and, as said previously, I highly recommend working with a clinical psychologist trained in this field. So many of us allow our circumstances to define who we are and yet just because you didn’t’ achieve your job promotion, does that really make you a failure or a bad person? Of course not, fundamentally you are still you, the same you, you were a few days earlier when you felt comfortable in your present job.

 

 

When it comes to food and exercise, here are my top tips:

 

  • Healthy eating is not about deprivation. In fact, I often describe it as unrestrained eating. Don’t follow fads, they are not the answer to eternal happiness and only leave you feeling low in energy and depleted of essential nutrients for required for optimal health. The key is to keep meals balanced and colorful; nothing should be off limits but be mindful of portion sizes of certain foods and frequency of eating them. Thinks of foods like friends, some you will want to spend more time with than others.

 

  • Don’t compare –most of us have a love, hate relationship with it. More and more studies are finding that social media negative impact on mental health; we find ourselves socially comparing ourselves to everyone we follow. While it may not always be conscious, this can drip feed into our psyche and start to affect how we view ourselves. How come they can work a full time job, train 20 hours a week and have time for family? It makes us feel inadequate and thus feed into our desire to prove we are good enough. The thing you have to remember about social media is that it is rarely real. Most people will only post when life is going well. You also need to ask yourself, why do I need to compare? Fundamentally we are all unique, this is actually what makes us human; comparing yourself to another is futile because there is no-one who is going to have the exact same genetic and lifestyle make up as you. There really is no ideal as rarely are two human beings the same, with the exception of identical twins.

 

 

  • And finally show yourself self compassion. Even if you do have a training session booked in, if you are tired or you just don’t feel like training, then take the day off. Or change what you are doing. Some mornings I wake and I just don’t feel ready to run; I’ve learnt that pushing through a session is not the answer. Listening to your body and understanding what it needs is. On these days, I just swap my morning run for morning yoga and a gentle walk. I still get the benefits but at a pace that is more suitable for me that particular day.

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January 3, 2019by adomedia0

I’ve said this many times but I have a love, hate relationship with social media – probably more so at this time of year than any other; its always the same, the conflicting messages alternating between holiday cheer, to a high state frenzy about how many calories we will all consume, to advice on how we should “burn the excess”.

And while we may well have eaten a bit more than normal for a few days, in reality its often that we have eaten differently and the “excess” may not actually be anywhere near as much as we are scare mongered into thinking.

 

Just to be clear I’m not saying that we should all become sloth like and take up residency on our sofa; lets face it, isn’t it tradition in most families to go for long walks before or after mealtimes? A time to catch up, reconnect with each other and enjoy the benefits of just being outside. What I am opposed to is the pressure that so many of us feel that you HAVE TO, and must EXERCISE in order to “beat the bloat”.

 

I’m sure that most of you reading this will still be in the post Christmas lull, still enjoying spending time with our families, catching up on well needed down time, as well as finishing off turkey and cheese board left overs. But, for those with an Eating disorder, this is one of the biggest challenges of the festive period –a change to normal eating patterns and food choices –it throws them into a state of panic with their anxious minds working over time creating all sorts of catastrophic outcomes. Its important to appreciate that individuals with an Eating disorder will always look for validation to maintain their behaviours –it makes them feel safe –controlled and contained, even when it will be apparent to those closest to them that the behaviours are anything but safe. Remember an eating disorder is not really about food or body image, this is just the medium they use to project how anxious, unhappy and uncomfortable they feel within themselves; it is their inability to sit with difficult emotions, constantly looking for ways to run away or numb deep rooted fears and perceptions.

 

Over the last few days I have been inundated with messages from those I work with, as well as new individuals, in a complete state of anxiety. Concerns that they won’t “get it right” because their normal foods are not available; the stress about having to sit around watching films or playing board games. Their minds playing tricks on them, with more and more intrusive thoughts about how this “lack of control” is going to end in tears. Somehow if they deviate from their usual food and training rules, they will become unfit, unhappy and balloon over night.

 

This is how irrational the eating disorder mind is.

 

The reality of course is that while they have an eating disorder and are restricting their intake and/or underweight, they are not making any training gains; and if anything they are just putting their already vulnerable body under more stress. That’s a huge challenge when working with eating disorders –it’s a silent illness in that so much of it is psychological but at the same time the body is slowly deteriorating –hormones, digestive system, bones and heart –individuals only sit up and take notice when its too late.

And when it comes to the fear of changes to weight, have you ever seen anyone physically balloon over the festive period?

 

No, because it is not a thing. In reality when our bodies are working optimally, they automatically regulate through homeostatic control. It will adjust our metabolism and send signals around satiety and hunger, because fundamentally, the body is always trying to achieve energy balance.  Its only when we try to override this internal barometer to either extremes of severe restriction or over consumption that we may find our body works against us; but even then it doesn’t have to be long lived.

 

Helping individuals understand physiological recovery from an eating disorder is one of my roles –helping them to challenge their pre-conceived mind sets and well rehearsed “coping” behaviours is all part of the process. Of course physiological “recovery” doesn’t automatically equate to full recovery. Eating disorders are complex and while some have described it as being “taken over by an external force”, the reality is that an eating disorder really is a manifestation of your personality traits that have gone off kilter. So recovery involves working with trained psychologists and counsellors who can help you manage these personality traits – the perfectionism, the self criticism, the concern over other people’s perceptions of them. And this, is an evolving and on going process; it is something you have to continue to work on through your life. Learning to navigate emotions and not having to react to every single thought.

That said, physical recovery alongside this is imperative; as the body becomes restored physiologically, biochemically and endocrinologically, only then can we engage our brain and learn to become more rational.

 

As we go into 2019, the inevitable onslaught of food and wellness trends are going to hit us –we cannot avoid it. While they may be dressed up with new titles and slightly different food rules, the bottom line is, they are all still selling you a so called formula to happiness and yet can you really dress up happiness as a method of eating or a fitness trend?

 

For those who are vulnerable, either already suffering from or susceptible to developing a dysfunctional relationship with food, they will be in search of this golden nugget, this fast forward button and it is these individuals I worry about the most.

One new trend that is fast emerging is around the theme of “Intuitive Eating”. Its not new, its been around for a while and also has previously been branded as “Mindful Eating” however since the middle of 2018, it has definitely become a buzz word and hailed as the “non-diet approach” to eating.

There is some evidence that this approach can work in those that need to lose weight and previous over restrictive diets have failed; it has a health rather than weight loss outcome focus, which I completely agree with. Its about tuning into those innate basic instincts of hunger signals we are all born with.

 

However, there a few areas where I do not condone the use of these Intuitive eating practices; during the recovery from Anorexia, Bulimia. Orthorexia or in athletes.

In those individuals recovering from an Eating Disorder, I have spoken to many experts in the field of eating disorders, psychiatrists, endocrinologists and academics and they all agree with also what I observe in clinic. When an individual has severely restricted their nutritional intake, it results in endocrine dysfunction and the body responds in a way that preserves energy. Hunger signals disappear and will not return until the body’s physical, biochemical and endocrine function restores.

Until this point, if you ask an individual with an eating disorder to intuitively eat, they will intuitively eat nothing.

Its also important to remember that restrictive eating behaviours, especially chronic, also cause huge structural changes to the brain. Studies have demonstrated that in many cases, it can take up to 5 years after an individual a has restored and maintained their health physically, before the brain catches up. So while there may be a time and place further down the line to teach someone recovering from an Eating Disorder to intuitively eat, it is likely that by this point, they will already have tuned into their hunger signals and will be managing it without having to be taught something their body instinctively can do.

 

From an Athletic point of view, exercise, especially intense exercise can often result in an immediate decrease in appetite. If an athlete tunes into this, rather than responding to appropriate recovery requirements, it can lead to chronic under fuelling, once again hampering endocrine response to get the progression they are looking for and potentially causing a decline in their metabolic adaptations; many will not see the body composition or performance outcomes they would expect.

 

So before you embark on any New Year, New You trends, take a moment to think about your real motives –why are you looking for answers through how or what you eat? Has this formula ever worked previously? If not, then why set yourself up to fail again?

Maybe its actually time to understand where the root problem with your discomfort and poor sense of self lies.

 

Make 2019 the year you learn to live your life not just exist it.


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March 28, 2018by Gavin Reynoldson0
Time, give yourself time;

Allow yourself the space to process, reflect and accept.

Life doesn’t come with any guarantees, 

It’s a journey you need to learn to navigate.

Sometimes the paths you choose will lead to Eden, 

Sometimes not. 

Either way, the journey is what you make of it.

Anxiety causes distress and discomfort; 

It increases the production of intrusive and destructive thoughts. 

It pulls you into despair; allowing that nagging doubt to swallow you whole. 

Life becomes a restless fight encompassing every aspect of you. 

You thrash about, this way then that, looking for any opportunity to escape. 

You look for comfort but everything is short lived; a momentary release before you are plunged back down into the abyss of negative emotions. 

But what if there was another option? 

It can take a long time to appreciate that life is a choice. 

Pain, suffering, loss and sadness all part of our story but equally weighted with love, happiness, joy and hope.

What if we choose not to let self doubt or intrusive thoughts in? 

What if we let them pass- put them on a receding wave and watch them go out to the horizon? 

What if we choose not to let those perceptions define us or dictate how our day may pan out? 

Surely we can choose to celebrate rather than berate ourselves? 

“Life is what you make of it”

“Feel the fear and do it anyway”

That’s what we are told and while they may not be your chosen words, the sentiment is there to be understood. 

By allowing ourselves time, time to mourn, time to heal but mainly time to just be, 

we learn to appreciate that this is allowed- We are human after all; 

We don’t have to wrap all our emotions into knots, put them in a box, lock the box and throw away the key. 

We can feel and accept- moments of sadness and equal moments of happiness- that’s the merry-go-round that is life. 

But most importantly we have to choose to believe, believe that through the rutted and bumpy path, with time, our path will change again and this time it may end with blue sky and a pot of gold.  


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